>One of the persons I want to meet in person one day on this side of heaven, is my dear friend Trisha Poff who blogs at A Multitude of Mercies. I am grateful for her life and for the providence of God who has brought us together in such a special way.
Thank you, my dear friend for writing such a timely and important article for all the women in the kitchen.
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We don’t want to leave our children out of the kitchen, do we? It’s important as mothers to be nourishing our children’s souls with sound doctrine as diligently as we nourish their bodies with good food. Our husbands are the spiritual leaders of our homes, and yet, we have the wonderful privilege to speak His truths to our children all day long.
But what does this look like, especially as we mother our Littles? This season of parenting is known for it’s unpredictability as we try to keep up with the laundry and dirty dishes, preserve our sense of humor, and not fall asleep while having a conversation with our husbands or while sitting in church.
While I’m sharing some practical ways to teach your children doctrine throughout the day, please note it comes with a HUGE caveat.
The best way you can teach your children His truths is to live them out yourself right before their very eyes. Words that come from the mouth of a heart that’s not surrendered to the Word of God will fashion hypocrites and Pharisees. God help us to make sure the walk lines up with the talk. Let us not, by God’s grace, be stumbling blocks to these precious souls God has entrusted to our care.
When you sin against your children, ask for forgiveness. When you’ve slandered someone, repent and explain your sin. When the cashier forgot to charge you for something, and you’ve loaded everyone up into their car seats, and you’re frustrated with the hassle…..unbuckle and trudge back in, even while knowing the cashier will look at you as though you have 2 heads. “Because God sees all we do, my children, and though man may never notice, God does. We must honor and glorify Him when we’re being watched and when we’re not.”
And in the midst of all the practical application, faithfully remind your children that is it not right doctrine that saves us, but the very blood of Jesus Christ. Remind them that we are righteous because of His righteousness.
That said, here are just a few things I’ve learned in the 16 years I’ve been a mommy.
1) Feed yourself first. Cultivate daily time in the Word. What you learn overflows to your children. Even if it’s just 15 minutes, start with something. There are seasons of motherhood, so some years allow for more time in the Word than others. But, if we’re honest with ourselves about where we invest our time, are there are any of us who could truly say, “I don’t have time to read the Bible.”
2) Be enthusiastic. Ask your children to tell you what they think you’re passionate about. Is it cooking? Reading? Sewing? Should not our passion for His truths be just as strong? How is your voice when you’re reading the Bible? Do you share your tears with them when you’re overwhelmed by God’s goodness? Do you communicate that being in the Word is just another thing to do before getting to the “good stuff”?
3) Teach the catechism. What a wonderful tool this is for planting sound doctrine in the hearts and minds of our children. The word catechism simply means “question and answer.” Who made you? God made me. Our family starts with the Children’s catechism, and then moves to the Heidelberg around age 8.
4) Memorize Scripture. Teach your children early to hide the very word of God in their hearts. I use the My ABC Bible Verses by Susan Hunt in the early years, and then we memorize chapters of Scripture at a time.
5) Remember the power of music. Songs stay with us. How many of us have songs that we learned years ago still floating around in our memories? Learn hymns. What a rich treasury most of them are of truths founded on God’s Word. Listen to music by artists like Judy Rogers or Dana Dirkson as well as the Hide ’em In Your Heart CDs by Steve Green. All of these are full of sound doctrine.
6) Share how sound doctrine has affected your life. Our children love to hear us talk about ourselves, don’t they? When I tell my children I used to read Benny Hinn’s books or share other follies, I let them know the price of ignorance. False doctrine is an invitation to sin, and our own errors should make us that much more passionate about teaching our children well.
7) Make Scripture your standard. From the beginning, the question should be, “What does God’s Word say.” Measure your life by His truths and your children will learn to do the same.
8) Role play. Challenge your children with hypothetical situations and ask them to defend their response from Scripture.
9) Have your children keep a doctrine notebook. This idea is from Sonya Shafer. As your children come across Scriptures that teach certain doctrines, such as election, justification, sanctification, etc., have them note the Scriptures in their notebook.
10) Redeem the moments for His glory. When you see the butterfly, talk about how God made everything and how He makes us new creations in Christ. When you’re changing a diaper, recite the first questions of the catechism, sing a hymn, or quote Scripture. (Yes, I do this!) When you’re brushing hair, remind your child that the very hairs on our heads are numbered by God.
11) Pray for wisdom to speak His truths naturally and intentionally to your children, and pray that all in your family would have strong spiritual instincts that are sensitive to doctrinal error.
12) Remember God’s grace and the work of the Holy Spirit. If you haven’t been teaching your children sound doctrine, don’t despair! Start today. And if you have been faithfully imparting God’s truth to your children, guard against pride, remembering that it is all by His grace, and that we cannot do the work of the Holy Spirit in our children.
13) Remember the basics. Have you taught your children the names of the books of the Bible? The Ten Commandments? Psalm 23? The Nicene Creed? Sometimes it’s easy to focus on big accomplishments while rearing Biblically-illiterate children.
14) Don’t forget the Church. Model to your children the importance of being part of and accountable to a local church body. Teach them what a gift it is to be under sound teaching each week and part of a community of believers.
God bless you as you faithfully teach your children sound doctrine!