The Feminist Mistake by Mary Kassian -My Review-

A professing Evangelical woman today will try to say that she is not a Feminist, that she only believes that in marriage (and Church) there should be no hierarchies, that in Christ we all are one and that we, wives, are not longer called to submit to our own husbands, instead we are both (husband and wife) called to submit to one another.  Is this even possible?

Mary Kassian’s book: The Feminist Mistake, The Radical Impact of Feminism on Church and Culture is an extremely important book in all this “gender debate” issue. And it is important because of at least three reasons:

1. It helps us understand the origins, the philosophical and theological views of Feminism and how it found its way into the Church.

2. It also help us understand how it is impossible to be a Feminist and a Christian. You can’t embrace both. Feminism always leads to a “new kind” of theology which has its own hermeneutic methods to interpret the Scriptures, so that it would be able to “support” its own beliefs.

3. It helps us understand that the so called “gender-debate” (egalitarianism vs complementarism), goes beyond the issues like “who takes the final decisions at home.” Feminism leads, little by little, to a complete non-Biblical view of God, and the world.

Kassian’s book is well written, clear, and engaging. It is also well researched and it includes a great number of references. Mary Kassian’s approach is objective, and does not deal with the subject as if she were in a “witch hunt,” she presents a professional historical account, and always from a solid Biblical standpoint.

The book is divided in two parts: The Philosophical Quake and Shock Waves

The first part is subdivided in three stages:

1. Naming Self (here she explains how women decided to name themselves, instead of letting God name them, define who they are).

2. Naming the World  (two of the things she deals about in this stage are: Women-centered Analysis of Theology and Women’s Studies in colleges).

3. Naming God (the feminization of God, and women and their place in the Church are discussed here).

In the second part of her book, Kassian deals with the advent of “biblical feminism,” the hermeneutic methods they use to sustain their “egalitarian” position, the  “what-to-do-know” kind of questions, and what will happen next if we refuse to see the danger feminism represents and we neglect to stand firm against it.

I would like to share with you some quotes on the matter of Feminism and Theology:

“In order to harmonize feminism and religion, Daly found it necessary to reject the theology that presented God as omnipotent, immutable, and providential, for she believed that this view discouraged women from seeking change. Furthermore, she viewed images of a jealous and vengeful God as projections and justifications for the role of the “tyrant father in patriarchal society” rather than as actual aspects of God’s character. The concept of an almighty, all-powerful, unchangeable, caring, providential God, jealous and demanding worship, was, according to Daly, an inadequacy in the conceptualization of basic doctrines which sustained and perpetuated androcentric theological teachings.” (p.47)


“Feminist theolgians, therefore, took the liberty of discarding passages of the Bible that did not agree with their vision of sexual equality. They either dismissed the text as outdated -relative only to a particular time and culture- and the author of the text as misogynistic, or they interpreted it and assigned it a meaning different from what the author had intended. The dynamic view of the Bible that feminists adopted allowed them to adjust biblical interpretations in order to make the Bible relevant to the problems and  perspectives of women in contemporary culture. Feminists argued that biblical interpretation could and should change.” (p. 108)


“Traditional symbols of the church had presented God as “He” and as King, Lord, and Judge. Feminists maintained that these religious symbols excluded women. The symbols needed to be updated to accommodate the new feminist consciousness. According to feminists, linguistics symbols of the Bible and church, as well as of God, needed to be altered in order to bring them into line with the inclusive equality of women.” (p.162)

Ruether and Stendal, two influential feminist theologians, said that “those who imaged God as male were guilty of idolatry,” and that “those who believed that God was, in some way or another, male were guilty of idolatry.” The author rightly responds,

“…by changing the biblical symbols, Russell altered and renamed God. This is a serious matter. For if feminism’s altered view of God is out of synchronization with who God really is, as He has revealed Himself, then it is not really God whom they are imagining and worshiping; and this is the idoaltry that the Bible condemns.” (p.168)

When women start re-naming God and try to de-sexualize Him, what they end up doing, according to the author’s analysis, is they depersonalized God, they attack God’s character,  they deny the Trinitarian relationship, they obscure the person and work of Christ, they obscure humanity’s relationship to God, and their own personal identity (p.168-173).

If you read this book carefully, you will clearly see the philosophical progression of feminism.

Mary Kassian says,

“While I do not deny that feminist vary in political theory and theology, I maintain that are all part of a larger continuum that supersedes and encompasses those variations. A feminist, at any given point in time, may not see herself or himself at the radical end of the movement, and I am certain that some individuals will never change their personal views to that extent. But the dissociation of one’s brand of feminism from the remainder of the feminist movement is a naive denial of reality. The philosophical progression of feminism is both coherent and logically immanent.” (p.241)

Maybe you are one of those who “sees feminism as an ideology that merely promotes the genuine dignity and worth of women.” Read what Mary Kassian wisely says on the matter:

“If this were true (the statement above), feminism would definitely be compatible with Christianity, for the Bible does teach that women and men are of equal value in God’s sight, co-created as bearers of God’s image. But the philosophy of feminism adds a subtle, almost indiscernible twist to the basic biblical truth of woman’s worth. Feminism asserts that woman’s worth is of such a nature that it gives her the right to discern, judge, and govern that truth herself… Feminism does not present itself as at outright affront to the Bible, but it nevertheless contains an insidious distortion that erodes the authority of the Scripture. Acceptance of the feminist thesis may not drastically alter one’s initial beliefs, but if followed, it will naturally and logically lead to an end miles away from the Christianity of the Bible.” (p. 261)

What now? Why should you read this book if you are not a “biblical feminist” (or an egalitarian)? I assure you, sisters, that the rise of this movement is coming more rapidly and with more fury than we can even start to imagine. We need to be ready to discern it and be well grounded in the Word of God to be able to teach our daughters (and sons) the dangers of this lie.

Let us press hard and embrace our precious and wonderful calling which is good, because God said so. Let us not be afraid, sisters, to be named by God, to embrace the beauty of our place in His story.

Then the man said, ‘This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man’” Genesis 2:23

Under His sun and by His grace,


Mary Kassian blogs at Girls Gone Wise, and True Woman




Doctrines in Action -Beyond the Kitchen-

Katie Lloyd Photography

A friend of mine, who professes to be a Christian, trying to bring some comfort to my family last week, called me and was surprised to hear me saying that we were finding comfort in God’s Sovereignty; in knowing that God had the days of our baby Faith counted, and that it was God himself who had decided to bring her to Him before she could see the light. My friend insisted that God would not do such a thing.

If you have followed my blog for a little while, you have probably noticed that I like to insist, to persuade my readers to study the Word of God, to dig deeper into the Scriptures, to pursue  sound doctrine; not necessarily in order to be able to point out those who teach wrongly, but to be able to grow in Christ and stand firm in the day of trouble. And now, more than ever, I affirm this truth: What we believe today, when the waters are calm, will either sustain us or bring us to despair the day in which our faith will be put to test.

Because, yes, our faith WILL be put to test sooner or later.

We believe that God is reigning supremely over all; He is sovereign and good to His people. He is Omnipotent and at the same time mindful of His children. We believe that God is Faithful, and never breaks a promise, so if He has said that all things work for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose; then the home-coming of Faith was something good.

“Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. And those whom he predestined he also called, and those whom he called he also justified, and those whom he justified he also glorified.” Romans 8:26-30

No, we have not asked “Why, LORD?” lifting our fists against Heaven; and we have not done this, first of all because the Lord has restrained us from sinning against Him; and secondly because we know Him. We know His character, and we rest assured in the sound doctrine of God’s Sovereignty.

“I am mute; I do not open my mouth,
for it is you who have done it.”
Psalm 39:9


“Not to us, O Lord, not to us, but to your name give glory,
for the sake of your steadfast love and your faithfulness!

Why should the nations say,
“Where is their God?”

Our God is in the heavens;
he does all that he pleases.”

Psalm 115:1-3

My friend has obviously a difficult time when trials to come, she has a hard time trying to solve the puzzles, and to give answers to all the “why’s” that assault her mind and heart. In her theology God is All-Powerful, but only until the Devil shows up, and messes up all things. Then God appears again and transforms all things, all the mess, into something good.

While the “problem of evil” is there, and we have no explanation to it (because the Bible doesn’t tells us about it) we do have an answer to it: God is Sovereign and All-Powerful and has conquered the evil one.

Dead doesn’t have a sting anymore, however, it still hurts; but we keep on pressing with our eyes fixed on Jesus towards the resurrection of our bodies and the day when we will be with all the saints in Heaven where tears will be shed no more.

“Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Let those of us who are mature think this way, and if in anything you think otherwise, God will reveal that also to you. Only let us hold true to what we have attained.” Philippians 3:12-16

I don’t know where you are standing today, where you are grounded, but remember that the trial of your faith will come; you better start preparing yourself for it even now.

Doctrine, the body of beliefs that you have now, will not only accompany you in the kitchen but also to the funeral of those you dearly love.

Under His sun and by His grace, 


>Two Giveaways. Two Books. Two facebook Pages.


I wish I would be here today

Isn’t this an amazing shot? I wish I could be there even now! I love Katie Lloyd ‘s Photography, she is very talented and I just love all the prints on her shop. You have seen her art featured here several times (and will still see it in the future), and I wish you to know that I have her permission to do so. Thanks Katie!

Our Friday looks pretty ordinary, with the exception that we are not eating home, but are planning to eat in a Mexican taco place that my children and their friends (our two hosts from the USA) really enjoy. And for those of you who doesn’t know, we live in Mexico, so when I say a Mexican restaurant please, forget about the stereotype you have in mind. I am talking about great food here.

I still have to finish ordering the books for the new school year, and cleaning our school room. Let’s see how much I can do today.  I really want to do this hanging book display for our little girl’s books; I just wished my mom were not in Canada, so she could help me! (Yes, I know it is easy, at least it looks easy, but I must admit that the needle, the sawing machine and things like that are not my friends. I love projets that involve fabric and glue. Sorry to disappoint you.)

Tutorial here

Well, now to the exciting part of this post: We (Diane @Theology for Girls and I) are hosting a fun giveaway on The Doctrines in the Kitchen Facebook page in which I am giving away one of my favorite books:

Read description at Monergism Books

and on the new Theology for Girls Facebook Page, Diane is giving away another excellent commentary, that has blessed my soul (actually the one I have, was a gift from her!). Plus, you will be excited to know that the book will be signed by Robert Bucknell (who happens to be Diane’s husband), the artist of the Spurgeon portrait on the cover.

Read more of the book here

OK, now the crazy part. How to enter? You must *Like* BOTH pages on Facebook and leave a comment under the one giveaway that interests you, saying that you would like to enter this giveaway. You can be interested in both, so feel free to leave a comment on both!

All this is fun, but I know that some of my faithful readers, friends, do not have a Facebook account, and I don’t feel it is fair to leave you out; so IF YOU DON’T HAVE A FB ACCOUNT, you can still enter the giveaway of The Commentary on Esther and Ruth. Just leave a comment on this post saying that you will like to enter, and I will gladly throw your name in the hat.

Winners will be announced next Friday, July 15.

Well, believe it or not I have not had coffee this morning so I will treat myself with some.

Under His sun and by His grace,




Katie Lloyd Photography
After all this wonderful banquet, in which we have been feasting on the Word of God, I know that we can be sure of at least two things:
1. We still have a long way to go, we still have so much to learn, to grow, to change; and it is only through the help of the Holy Spirit that we will. After all, if we have been called to eternal life, we are Daily On Our Way to Heaven…
2. We are not in darkness, we have the Word of God to enlighten our paths, and this should make us praise God every day, every hour, every minute.
In his commentary to the epistle to the Philippians, John MacArthur writes what is exactly in my heart for each one of us as we end this series of Doctrines in the Kitchen.
“Paul began the concluding portion of Philippians with a doxology. The English word “doxology” comes from two Greek words, doxa (“glory”) and logos (“word”). Thus a doxology is a word about glory; it is an outburst of praise and adoration that honors and ascribes glory to God.

Doxologies in Scripture are fitting responses to doctrinal truth… 

True worship flows from divine truth…
A doxology is also an appropriate response to all that God has done for believers…”
So, my dear friends and sisters, let our mouth sing praises to God today!
“To our God and Father be glory forever and ever. Amen.” 
Phil. 4:20
“Oh, the depth of the riches and wisdom and knowledge of God! 
How unsearchable are his judgments and how inscrutable his ways!
“For who has known the mind of the Lord,
or who has been his counselor?”
“Or who has given a gift to him
that he might be repaid?”
For from him and through him and to him are all things. 
To him be glory forever. Amen.” 
Romans 11: 33- 36 ESV
“Now to him who is able to strengthen you according to my gospel and the preaching of Jesus Christ, according to the revelation of the mystery that was kept secret for long ages but has now been disclosed and through the prophetic writings has been made known to all nations, 
according to the command of the eternal God, 
to bring about the obedience of faith— 
to the only wise God be glory forevermore through Jesus Christ! 
Rom. 16: 25-27 ESV
“Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, 
according to the power at work within us, 
to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, 
forever and ever. 
Eph. 3: 20-21 ESV
“Now to him who is able to keep you from stumbling 
and to present you blameless before the presence of his glory with great joy, 
to the only God, our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord, 
be glory, majesty, dominion, and authority, 
before all time and now and forever. Amen.”
Jude 24-25 ESV

Soli Deo Gloria


Wrapping Up the Series: Doctrines in the Kitchen


“My doctrine shall drop as the rain,
my speech shall distil as the dew,
as the small rain upon the tender herb,
and as the showers upon the grass”
Deut 32: 2
WOW! We did have a wonderful feast, didn’t we?
I am grateful for each one of the ladies who contributed to this wonderful banquet.Thank you for all the effort, time and prayers that you invested in your articles. Thank you to my beautiful daughter Annie, to Katie Lloyd and Rachel for their generosity in granting me permission to use many of their beautiful photographs in this series. Thanks to J for making our beautiful button.  I am also grateful for each one of you, Readers, who followed along, for those who left comments, and for those who quietly read and pondered. I am grateful for each one of you, I truly am.
We learned so much while reading about so many beautiful doctrines in the Bible. What do we do now with all these?, you may ask, with all these words in my heart? What’s next?  Many words you read here were probably new for you, many others challenged you, others gave you hope, and some others, I am sure, made you cry.
Dear friend, the most important thing you can do now is go to the Father. Pray, pray earnestly, that He will draw you to His Word. That you will find your delight in His Word, in the beautiful truths hidden in the Scriptures, and that the Holy Spirit will speak to you clearly and open you eyes to see and your ears to hear.
We all are living in different seasons in our lives, some of us are still homeschooling our children, others are nursing babies and changing diapers, others are enjoying being grandmothers. We are exactly where God, in His divine providence, has us now; and we should be happy and content in that season. Some of us have more time to read more books, but others don’t, and that is OK. If you only find time, in this season of your life, to read only one book, let it be, by all means, the Word of God. Let is be your delight day and night, your comfort, your strength, let it change you, abide in it, memorize it, repeat it to your self, to your children. Drink from it, until you thirst no more.
If you are in a season of your life when you have more time to read “big books”, and to study, then you are in the perfect moment to invest time in younger women. Help them, teach them, give them godly advice and godly example. Be a blessing to them! Just as you may prepare a nice dish to take to a young mom who has just delivered her third baby; so you can prepare a feast of the Word and teach her while she nurses her baby. Give what you have. Be generous and share with younger mothers what you have been given.
I love doctrine, I love it so much because  for so many years I did not have any structure in my spiritual life and was very easily deceived. Now I face another danger. I can become a woman who knows her doctrine back and forth but doesn’t live it with passion. J.C. Ryle says it well,
“Doctrine is useless if it is not accompanied by a holy life.
It is worse than useless; it does positive harm.
Something of ‘the image of Christ’ must be seen
and observed by others in our private life, and
habits, and character, and doings.”
I pray that if you are like me, passionate about sound doctrine, you and I  may be also passionate about living it in our private lives, in our prayer closets, in our our habits, and with our husband and children. May God help us!
This series ends this weekend, (tomorrow, I invite you to come and read the closing post of this series in which you’ll see what is the best response we can have after receiving sound doctrine), and some of you have asked us what’s coming next.  Well, we will love to keep communicating with you, and the easiest way will be through our Facebook page. We will keep it updated with good links to different articles, (many of them written by our contributors in the Kitchen), good recipes, book offers, etc…   And God willing, we may cook something new for you in the future!
Once again, thank you, thank you for you kind response.


Soli Deo Gloria!



Respecting Our Husbands by Eileen Lawyer


Eileen Lawyer is a very dear friend to me and a sweet sister in Christ; she has been a beautiful and faithful example to me on how a wife should submit herself to her own husband with love and all due respect. I am grateful to the Lord, for bringing godly women like her on my way.

Thanks for being such a wonderful friend, Eileen!

As I read through the many delightful posts on Becky’s blog, I am filled with great joy that there are so many women across the boundary lines of states and countries, that love the same God that I do. It reminds me, again, that our God is big. He is the God of all creation – of heaven and of earth. Thank you Becky, for asking me to join a fabulous group of ladies who have been blessed with wisdom and knowledge. I pray that this post I write will encourage all of you, as yours have done for me.

Respecting our Husbands

When ladies get together in the kitchen (or anywhere) they like to chat. It is how we get to know one another – how many children we have, where do we attend church, what books we are reading, what our husbands do, and so forth. What we say about our family members is an easy way for others, who may not know them, to get to know them. So what we say about our families (and others), and how we promote them is extremely important. Our words must be chosen carefully. Kindness and love must reign. We do not want to gossip and we do not want to back bite. With this in mind, I would like discuss Respecting Our Husbands.

Two weekends ago, my family and I attended one of the many weddings that will be held this spring. The vows were not surprising, but they were, none the less, very important because through those vows, the world became a witness of the bride and groom’s commitment to each other and to God. The husband was admonished to love his wife and the bride was encouraged to respect her husband. Have you ever thought about the difference in the commands? Husbands are to love; wives are to respect (see Eph. 5).

We all understand that God has wired men and women differently – women enjoy Jane Austin stories, men like explosions. One of the wonderful differences He has created in us, is the fact that men need respect. We know this is true because the Bible tells us to render them respect. But what does respect look like so that it can be rendered? Let us turn to God for our answer.

1 Peter 3:1 says, “Wives, likewise wives, be submissive to your own husbands….” Again, in 1 Peter 3:6 we read, “…As Sarah obeyed Abraham calling him lord.” Sarah is commended for her obedience to Abraham calling him Lord and master. When we submit to our husband’s authority, that is showing respect. When we praise him to our children, that is showing respect. When we organize our home in a manner that is pleasing to our husbands, that is showing respect. When we defer to him how to educate our children, that is showing respect.

Obedience is one of the outward displays of the respect you have for your husband. And your respect for your husband has greater consequences than you can imagine for in obeying him, you are obeying God. And in obeying God, you are blessed!

When we respect our husbands, others respect our husbands. Look at Psalm 31:23 “Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.” Why is her husband able to sit at the gates with the other elders? Because he is respected by the men of the city. The only way that can happen is if he is respected at home. And that begins with us.

Let’s return to chatting in the kitchen. Chatting refers to light, easy conversation. Conversation refers to words, and words can be both a blessing and a curse. These are ways to show respect for our husbands when we speak about them, or to them: Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bone (Pr. 16:24); a gentle answer turns away wrath (Pr.15:1a); the tongue of the wise commends knowledge (Pr. 15:2a); A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones (Pr. 15:30). Therefore, when we respect our husbands with our actions and our words, even to others when our husbands are not around, our attitude will reflect back to us, making us lovely in the eyes of God. Husbands and wives lift each other up with respect and love as God has instructed us to do.

I know there are some husbands out there that many wives feel are not respectable. So, do you only respect them when they deserve it? Is that what God says? No. God gives no qualifiers to his command. He says, “Respect your husbands”. When you don’t, you are telling God that He doesn’t know what He’s talking about. But, how can He not know when he’s God – your Creator, your Savior? Your husband may not be respectable, but I do believe that if you begin to speak to him in a manner that renders respect and act toward him in a manner that brings respect, he will become more respectable than he was. (see 1 Peter 3:1-2). You will be blessed by your obedience.

According to the Apostle Peter, women who submit and obey their husbands are beautiful.

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.”
(1Pe 3:3-6 NIV)

Submitting and obeying is beautifying because obedience to God can only come from a heart that belongs to God. It is He that has made it beautiful. We know that “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” (Mat. 12:34) So if our hearts, which belong to God, are filled with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control, and our mouths are praising our husband, what greater blessing can there be?

May you be women loved by God, full of virtue, the greatest admirers of your husbands, and their biggest fans.

“Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”


©Eileen Lawyer



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